4 Styles Of Parenting Every Parent Must Familiar With

Published: 2021-03-30
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Author: Editorial
Published in: Home and Family

According to the U.S. National Library of Medicine, Parenting is described as "playing the role of a parent by providing care, nurturing, and safety of a child by a natural or substitute parent,"

The parent offers guidance to the child by exercising authority and reacting to the child's needs in a clear, empathic, and effective manner.

The focus on child-rearing is on the act of training or bringing up the baby, as well as the relationship between the parent and the child, while parenting emphasizes the parent's role and attributes of exemplary conduct.

The essence of good parenting

Parenting should be done in a way that takes into account the age and level of development of the baby.

That is, there is a match between children's developmental age and aspirations, discipline, and resilience-building strategies.

• The aim of good parenting is to socialize children. Parents give their children and teenagers social scripts to help them navigate their changing social horizons. This social scripting aids them in handling both online and offline environments.
• Good parenting instills in children a development mentality rather than a mindset that believes a child's intellect is fixed. Parenting that fosters a growth mentality focuses on initiatives and plan rather than merely understanding and improving natural abilities.
• Encouragement takes precedence over recognition, outcomes take precedence over punishment, and cooperation takes precedence over obedience in good parenting. This means that parenting is appropriate for the times we live in.

Types of parenting methods

Parenting methods need to be all-encompassing, not too tough and not too soft. Below are 4 types of parenting methods:

Authoritative

If you're an authoritative parent, you have high, but fair standards for your child and recognize that no one is perfect (including yourself).

You've already read a lot of child development articles or books and want the best for your child.

Your thing is bedtime routines, order, naps, planned events, and fixed feeding times.

 You're a rule-follower who follows through with your commitments. You're also a nurturing, loving parent who loves talking to your kids.

If you're pregnant and haven't given birth yet, you probably talk to the baby in your belly and listen to music while running errands every couple of days.

Your aim is to build a caring and open relationship with your child based on a high degree of communication in order to fully comprehend your child.

This is the healthiest way to raise children, so if this is you, congratulations

Authoritarian

You are the strict parents if you or your partner (usually only one parent) is authoritarian.

But not in the sense that we only encourage our children to eat organic fruits, but rather in the sense that we set the rules and you obey them.

With this style, there isn't much room for debate; it's either your way or the highway.

You may be recalling one of your parents from your childhood as you read this. People also joke that this is "old school" parenting.

Punishment is sometimes used to instill the importance of being obedient or compliant.

If you're this type of parent, you don't like being challenged, you don't want to justify yourself, and you give your child very few options.

Having a warm and caring relationship with your child is extremely difficult with this parenting style.

They would most likely be scared of you, have low self-esteem, weak decision-making skills, and be timid or anxious.

Minor changes can also be made with some awareness of the possible negative effects of this style in order to provide structure, respect, and rules while remaining approachable, wet, and caring.

Permissive

You will fail to create rules, structure, or organization if you are a permissive parent.

After spending an hour with you at your house, your guests leave with the impression that the kids are in control. You're involved with your kid, but you don't have much influence over him or her.

You have good intentions, but you often avoid confrontation and compromise with your children.

It can begin as early as infancy when your baby is crying and your doctor advises you to let them cry it out for 30 minutes, but you are unable to do so.

Bribes are your biggest ally (if you stop crying, I will give you snacks). 

You're more going to want to be best friends with your kid if you assume that all of the choices and freedoms you offer them now will lead to them becoming more imaginative and free-spirited in the future.

What you don't want to hear is that a lack of structure and limits is bad for your growing child.

Children who lack boundaries are more likely to disobey authority, have difficulty socializing with their peers, and seem spoiled.

If you're a permissive parent, you'll need to set limits and trust the process in order to maintain a close and safe relationship with your child while still adhering to laws, consequences, and structure.

Neglectful

No one wants to be thought of as a bad mom, but there's a reason this parenting style has been around for so long.

If you're reading this, you're not a horrible person who doesn't care about your kids, there is room for improvement. 

To begin, a neglectful parenting style is defined by a lack of awareness of your child's emotional or physical needs.

You might be having trouble knowing what's going on in your child's life, or you might feel helpless in theirs and yours.

You may be in an abusive relationship or marriage with domestic abuse, constant fights, or alcoholism, making it impossible to prioritize your child's needs.

A regular travel schedule for work, on the other hand, may cause an otherwise good person to be a neglectful parent.

If you are unable to attend school meetings or sports activities, or if you are unfamiliar with your child's teachers or peers, you might be missing important aspects of their lives that hinder bonding.

This lack of involvement is a major barrier to developing faith in your child, which can be detrimental in his or her life.

Even the busiest or most stressed parents can develop a healthy relationship with their child with effort, education, and some meaningful time.

Tips for Parenting

Consider these tips to secure a good foundation for your parenting skills

1. Dedicate Time towards Your Children

It's not always easy for parents and children to sit down for a family meal, let alone spend quality time together.

However, there is certainly nothing that children would enjoy more.

Get up 10 minutes earlier in the morning to eat breakfast with your kids, or leave the dishes in the sink after dinner and go for a walk.

When children do not receive the attention they want from their parents, they sometimes act out or misbehave in order to be heard.

2. Be a Good Role Model

By watching their parents, young children will learn a lot about how to behave.

The younger they are, the more they can pick up on your cues.

Consider this before you lash out or lose your temper in front of your kids: Is this how you want your child to act when he or she is angry?

Be mindful that your children are always watching you. Children who strike, have a role model for violence at home, according to studies.

3. Demonstrate Your Unconditional Love

You have the responsibility of correcting and directing your children as a parent. However, how you provide corrective advice makes a huge difference in how a child responds to it.

When confronting your kid, avoid accusing, criticizing, or finding fault, as these actions can lower self-esteem and lead to resentment. Instead, even when disciplining your children, aim to cultivate and inspire them.

Make sure they understand that, while you hope for and expect more the next time, your love will always be there for them.